I'm grateful that my husband is not the OCD controlling type that others are complaining about.
And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too. What goes on in those sacred temples.
I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. So I feel a little frightened after reading this blog.
God works by small and simple means to bring about His great and eternal purposes. Make arrangements to send her to your cousins town and let your cousin know she will be visiting.