They create an unflattering comparison but also an unobtainable ideal.
If you go yourself, you'll see - those people are good people. In retrospect, I believe I was being led to my current spouse.
The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year.
Then again, I doubt any man who's not in medicine is willing to put up with the sacrifices of being a neurosurgeons husband.