I have been understanding of the demands of his career for many years, but I have come to realized that I'm not happy living this way.
I often contemplate divorcing my husband so that I could seek happiness elsewhere, or at least companionship. And after years of this struggle, will your love for him and desire to avoid the hassle cause you to reduce your activation.
Now I look at his job and his schedule and his tiredness as a part of both of our lives, rather than something that is just his life that I have to deal with. It is tempting for Mormon girls to become lazy because they have such a high standard compared to typical girls.